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While meeting people on the internet whether it be
thru chat or a dating site, it is fun and easy, still you have to be careful
going on a date with someone you hardly know.
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Take your time and start
slow, firstly start by communicating by email. Always be aware for
inconsistencies in writing and behavior.
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Guard your anonymity for
as long as you don't feel comfortable with someone. Remember the other
person has to earn your trust, and not vice versa. So do not include any
personal info like name and address when exchanging emails. As said before use
an anonymous email address just for the purpose of exchanging mails with
possible dates.
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Request for more then one
photo. As a picture will give you a good idea of the persons appearance, seeing
the person in different surroundings will give you . If he or she has children
ask for a family picture. If he or she cannot provide you with more then
picture or cannot produce one at all something doesn't add up. Scanning a
picture is very cheap and most dating sites can scan it for you. Always look out
for fake pictures, a professional picture is easy to spot on the lightning, and
who would spend the money to get a professional picture taken.
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Continue by instant
messaging. Msn and Yahoo, have voice and cam capabilities, so you can hear
and see the person you are planning to date. Both are easy to use and free of
charge, and most people have speakers, ,a microphone and a cam. And these things
are very cheap, you can get a good microphone or headset for just a few dollars.
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Ask about previous
relationships or marriages. Why did they end and when. Is he or she over
the past relationship, or is there still some remorse. Ask questions and
listen to the answers. if something doesn't add up ask for clarification.
Trust your instinct and gut feeling. If it doesn't feel right, something
probable isn't, even if its just a hunch. Better be safe then sorry, don't
become a statistic.
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Call on the phone, as it
can reveal a lot on a persons communication and social skills. Use a cell phone
for added safety.
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Sent a card and
verify the address.
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The beauty of online dating is, you can do everything at your own pace, you
cannot be forced into meeting someone. You can slowly get to know each other and
collect the information you need to feel comfortable, and then decide on
pursuing the relationship in the real world or not.
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